I am a seasoned divorce coach, child specialist, mediator, parenting coordinator, and psychotherapist.
It's been my experience that...
The emotional, financial, and spiritual costs of divorce can be significant, and many times decisions are made in the process that are difficult to live with afterward. The outcome can be very disappointing, often leaving people disempowered. After the legal divorce is completed, people often are left with an emotional "residue" of anger, betrayal, and sadness.
What I do:
►As a divorce coach, my goal is to facilitate a powerful conversation with people who are interested in not only recovering but rebuilding a better life after divorce. This is deep work for those who are not afraid to look at what has been missing in their lives, and commit to first envisioning a new life and finally creating that life. We work together toward this end, and it takes time, energy, and commitment. If you are ready to create the life that you truly want, we will work together to develop a plan. I will help you create the steps and execute it, making steps that will ultimately result in seeing your highest dream become your reality.
►As a mediator and parenting coordinator, I work with both parents pre-, during, and post-divorce to understand the needs of the children, and maintain the best parts of the family culture you've both created. We will talk about and develop parenting plans and strategies that address the needs of your children, and both parents' lives. Divorce does not mean that the family is no longer alive, but that the family changes structure. Two homes, one family. When we start from here, your children are not placed in a position of choosing.
►As a collaborative practice divorce coach, I work as part of an interdisciplinary team, with you, your attorneys, financial neutral, and dedicated specialist for the children. This role involves supporting you, with the help of the collaborative team, make your own sustainable decisions. I've trained other professionals in collaborative practice as a partner in Trainers for the Advancement of Collaborative Practice, TACP.
►As a child specialist, I have been trained in child psychosocial development. I work with parents to develop schedules and parenting plans that indicate clearly who, what, when, where, and how your children's lives will continue in a seamless transition as you move into two homes. We work to mitigate the harm of high conflict over parental decision-making, proactively making agreements ahead of time. I work in a consultantive role to you both about the children's developmental needs, best practices for the transition, and inclusiveness of both families and sets of friends.
►I work with individuals who are in litigation to understand and take accountability for their part in the process, develop realistic expectations, and communicate more effectively with their attorneys. Families and friends are often well-meaning, but may have an adverse effect on creative problem solving.